My advice to caregivers, “Take some time for yourself because you can’t give what you don’t have.”
Hello friends, this is Beverly Butler here. I so enjoyed appearing on Dr. Sally Shutz’s podcast show. She is a true professional and a delight to know and call friend. Some of you may know my story, but no matter I believe you can learn from this conversation on what it takes to be a caregiver.
We dedicate this podcast to all caregivers no matter the illness or circumstances. This is a very demanding and stressful job and in many cases a fulltime job.
“One of my fears when I was in panic mode was abandonment and desertion and why would anyone want to put up with the turmoil of someone so debilitated and demanding.” Dr. Sally Shutz
Beverly Butler is a health coach and author. Her book, “The Misdiagnosed Child” was written as a result of her experiences and what she learned from dealing with a sick child of her own. She has now dedicated her life to helping others find solutions to life’s most challenging problems. Her show is on the podcast network www.americaoutloud.com.
It took years to get a correct diagnosis for Beverly’s daughter who has been sick since she was seven. Doctors both in alternative and conventional medicine were baffled as to what was causing her health problems. They gave it several different labels but it wasn’t until late December of 2012 that part of the answer came and that was through an energetic testing device. We further found the rest of the answers later at a clinic in Florida.
The day she got sick she said momma take me to the doctor.
“Her personality changed, it’s like I lost my child my real child at seven and I had to get used to a different child since and that was hard. The sickness was hard but the personality change was really hard.” Beverly Butler
It really takes a toll on the patient and the family especially the caregiver and it becomes imperative for the caregiver to take care of him or herself. Beverly says that what helped her keep her sanity during these rough times she had with her daughter was focusing on finding the answers. This took her research to a whole new level. This is her advice to caregivers and that is to focus on the solution instead of so much on the problem.
“It’s the law of attraction, focusing on the problem just brings you more problems.” Dr. Sally Shutz
One of the most important things a caregiver can do is to take care of yourself and to get help in learning how to deal with stress. One of the big takeaways with either being chronically sick yourself or caring for a chronically sick family member is that you don’t look at life the same anymore. It makes you a much more compassionate person, you appreciate life and people more. The main thing to know is that it will all work out and we can be better as a result no matter how difficult the problems we have to face. We just need to keep the faith and never give up.